To the worn out Defence spouse

who feels like she's never enough, and is edging closer to the brink of tears and exhaustion:

What if you could increase your capacity by building your emotional fitness?

BOOK YOUR FREE EMOTIONAL FITNESS CHECK-UP

If you’re like most Defence spouses, you’re so over the fight to hold it all together for your family, while also trying damn hard not to burn out.

It feels like everyone keeps talking about the need to be resilient. To push through, to hold it together. To have grit.

And you get it. You know you need to take care of yourself. You know you need to get through the tough times and stay emotionally intact.

You also know you need to make more time for you. But how do you find time when your partner is often away? And you're barely making it through each day, just doing the bare minimum?

Hi, I'm Miranda

I'm your fun-loving, adventure-seeking champion of YOU

I get it. Defence life is kinda like a roller coaster, only the dude running the controls has gone rogue. He's randomly speeding it up, slowing it down, and just to terrify you a bit more, he's even making it go backwards. It's meant to be fun, but it's actually terrifying.

This is how it felt for me for my first 17 years as a Defence spouse. The turning point — where I leapt off the ride as it passed through the station, booting the dude out and reclaiming control of the ride — was when I started working on my emotional fitness.

I learned how to turn fear into excitement. I became grittier. I rediscovered what's inside me, and increased my capacity for scary new challenges (including meeting new people — I even started to love it!).

You too can increase your capacity and build emotional fitness. You can experience the bright side of military life, and become the joyful and confident Defence spouse you deserve to be.

"Exhaustion is the only state I know. But it's not sustainable or healthy, and the effort I put in doesn't match what my life looks like. And there's not much left in the tank for me to have fun, or play with my kids."

~ Most Defence spouses

As much as you love your business, you often wonder 'Why am I even doing this? My business is sucking the life out of me'.

If only people could see you for the damn remarkable human you are. Then you could win more clients, grow your biz, and have more time for your kids... and yourself.

The overwhelm of running your own small business is all-consuming, leaving you feeling frustrated and alone.

But it doesn't have to be that way.

You probably had some idea what you were getting in for when you 'signed up' to become a Defence spouse.

You may have even romanticised parts of it (heck, I know I did!!). But quite likely, no one really prepared you for how freakin' demanding and difficult it was actually going to be. You

But if you're like most Defence spouses, there's a good chance you didn't plan for just how hard it was going to be, or for

the sweat, swearing and crying that comes with the constant upheaval caused by new postings, deployments, and unexpected absences from your partner.

And when you're busy trying not to drown in puddles of tears or sweat, you start to develop blind spots, missing the kinds of things that can get in the way of being an emotionally fit, empowered woman.

Introducing...

for Defence Spouses

Embrace adventure, find your joy, and become an empowered, emotionally fit Defence spouse.

Wondering exactly how you'll build grit and grace?

Over six weeks together, I'll be here alongside you, guiding you to:

Create a deeper level of self-honesty and implement small daily wins so you can build confidence and grit.
Uncover unconscious beliefs that are holding you back
Feel like you have better control over the most important system you will ever operate — YOU

PLUS:

You'll have someone in your corner who'll cheerlead and champion you and keep you accountable

And you’ll learn it from an experienced Defence spouse who is an emotional fitness coach, and who created this course so that women like me can learn from my mistakes and live more empowered lives.

"I've had years of therapy, and since working with Miranda, this is the first time I've felt like I had the tools to navigate this darkness on my own".

~Anna

Defence spouse and ex-RAN

Using my Grit & Grace framework, which is built on proven, research-backed strategies from Australia's #1 coaching school, I'll be your champion.

I'll help you get closer to being an empowered, emotionally fit woman and Defence spouse.

Here's your road to grit and grace:

MONTH ONE:

BUILDING SELF-AWARENESS

Hey beautiful, let's see if there's any blind spots hiding you from the greatness inside you.

For this session, I bring my virtual scalpel, diving deep into your mind — oops sorry I mean into your EDISC behavioural profile!

Yup, we gonna find out how you're energetically wired, how you are show up in the world right now — and the gap in between. Cos inside that gap is a whole lotta juicy insights that will light you up with aha moments and shift the way you see yourself.

MONTH TWO:

PRIORITISING YOU

Discover what's underneath guilt (and develop a tool kit for when it shows up), build up your boundaries, and embrace self care. Hint: real self-care is SO much more than candles and bubble baths!

And understand how it all affects your capacity to show up in your life as a functional Defence spouse and mum.

MONTH THREE:

RADICAL HONESTY

Create a deeper level of self-honesty by recognising the easily overlooked daily choices and actions that can get in the way of building self-trust.

I'll support you to implement small daily wins so you can build confidence and grit, and feel more equipped to handle those unexpected conversations like, 'Um, honey, I know it's a bit last minute, but I'm going to be away all next week '. 😬😬😬

MONTH FOUR:

CHOOSE YOUR OWN ADVENTURE

Remember what it felt like to face every challenge — big or small — with reckless abandon?

Adventures and fun are not reserved for kids — you deserve to experience this too!

Believe it or not, you CAN create space for childlike wonder through mini adventures and intentional pockets of daily joy.

MONTH FIVE:

YOUR PERSONAL OPERATIONS MANUAL

Take your self awareness to a whole new level by getting clear on your priorities and documenting your growth — so you can step into an empowered you.

This super cool kit we'll co-create will help you increase awareness of your growth so far, and where else you want to grow. Plus it will reduce overwhelm around all the new things you’ve learned.

And the best bit? You'll feel like you have better control over the most important system you will ever operate (you!).

MONTH SIX:

THE JOURNEY TO EMOTIONAL FITNESS

What if I said you could turn your fear into excitement? What would it give you to feel like a healthy relationship with uncertainty is possible?

There's a whole bunch of stuff going on in your unconscious that's 100% holding you back. I'll help you realise that you are the only one with power over your identity — not anyone or anything outside of you.

The truth is that your emotional fitness is determined by how you think, and shifting your thinking is absolutely possible when you understand how.

Together we'll create an actionable plan, propelling you towards radical growth in your mind, and your life.

With me by your side, you'll embrace uncertainty and move faster towards a sustainable lifestyle that carves out more time for family, fun and you.

No one deserves to navigate Defence spouse life alone.

Book your free 45 minute emotional fitness check-up, and let's see if Grit & Grace feels right for you. And I promise I'll help you uncover some of what's getting in the way of being an empowered, emotionally fit Defence spouse.

BOOK YOUR FREE EMOTIONAL FITNESS CHECK-UP

After working with many extraordinary women, I've noticed four vital things they frequently overlook that massively impact their success:

1. COSTLY BLIND SPOTS

All too often, they're caught up in the grind of to do lists and being reactive to whatever challenges the day presents.

That's normal and understandable, but it's dangerous. Not taking time to step back or get support to get an objective view of their business means they completely miss obvious gaps that come at a price.

2. SELF-CARE

Because mums are inherently kind and giving humans, they're so caught up in meeting everyone else's needs (kids, partners, employees, clients), they don't realise they're not taking great care of themselves.

You may feel like this is you. Heck you may even joke about it with your friends. But unless you take it seriously and take corrective action, you're on a dangerous path to less than adequate mental health.

3. THEIR SIGNATURE SPARKLE

Oh my copywriter's heart cries when I see beautifully unique women not recognising what makes them unlike anyone else in their space.

They, like you, have incomparable qualities that make them sparkle and stand out. They just need a little help recognising what it is so they can own it, share it, and profit from it.

4. HAVING A CHAMPION

You may have heard the famous TED talk 'Every Kid Deserves a Champion'. And I wholeheartedly agree.

But you know who else deserves a champion? Business mums. They need a true believer who never gives up on them. Because without one, it's too easy to get stuck in overwhelm, and to overlook the importance of celebrating wins.